Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Back to Normal

So, it looks like everything at school is calm for now. I did receive a phone call last week from Mary's teacher, however this time, Mary instigated the confrontation. Mary walked past the boy who was calling her names and gave him a look, and a shrug of the shoulders. I know this look perfectly, we get it all the time when Mary is not happy with us. Hopefully, she has learned her lesson, to just stay away! Mary may not like being teased, but she also lacks a certain bit of fear. I don't want her to be afraid of anyone, but I also don't want her provoking anyone either.

On to the medical front. A week ago, we went for Mary's 3 month checkup. We increased the medicine that is supposed to help her with her anxiety and OCD. So far, so good. Since then, she hasn't been obsessively hanging out in the driveway, waiting for her boys to walk by. Hopefully this is not replaced by some other habit. Anyway, on this particular visit, the Dr had just been visited by a representative from a company called Linegean. They do genetic testing for Autism, Intellectual disabilities, etc. This is a $5,000 test, they were offering to him for patients at no charge to them as long as they had private insurance. Whatever the insurance doesn't pay, the patient will not be charged. Good until Oct. 31. So, the Dr offered it to us, a blood test, as opposed to more academic style testing. We jumped on it! Mary was not happy about giving her blood, but we made it through.

This test may not prove anything, as is the case most of the time when it comes to Mary. When we get the results in about three weeks, we will be assigned a genetic counselor who will help us understand what having or not having certain genetic traits will mean for Mary. It will also give us the opportunity to take all the guess work out of all the tests she has taken in the past. Mary is not a good test taker, which is why she has been called an enigma by her teachers. Also, it will determine exactly what services she needs to ensure her success in school and life in general.
I am a little bit anxious to see where this all leads, but not expecting much. I have learned my lesson a long time ago, there is no magic cure. We love and accept Mary just the way she is. I only want to make sure she gets everything she needs and thankful to have the opportunity to give her that chance.


Zibilee said...

It is good to hear that the teasing and bullying has stopped, as that was probably really frustrating and scary for you. I know it makes my blood boil when I hear that my kids are being teased and harassed. I also think that it was divine intervention that you just happened to be at the doctor's office in time for this test to be given out for free! I know that you aren't holding your breath, but I am praying that this test gives you some of the answers that you have been looking for for so long. What I love most about this post is the last few sentences, that you love Mary just the way she is, and you don't want to change her, only to help her. I can tell you that a lot of other parents might not feel that way, and that you are a credit to your family. Take care over there. I am glad to hear that things are getting better!

Sandy Nawrot said...

I'm really interested in what this test is going to say. I think you're wise to not get your expectations up, but it could shed some light (at least more than you have now).

I hate to think that she is being bullied, but I did a tiny little fist pump that she stood up for herself. She has so much spunk.